Before anyone protest about what i am about to post right now please shut the fuck up because its not about spoiler movies AADC but its my personal view about love.
How on earth a person who already move on, had a great partner who willing to spend their lifetime ahead and when the person from the past suddenly show up you crawl back to their arm.
Dude that's mean and evil.
That person become a part of your history for a reason like :
- infidelity (they cheat on you and left you for someone else)
- the bullshit crap you are just to good for me
- another bullshit like i ain't ready for commitment (later on they end up with another person)
- etc
When that person from the past left, you felt devastated, angry, disgusted about yourself image, start to question every single thing in your life, your world fall apart without their presence.
The worst part from break up is when you had to start the move on process.
Dude, move on process thing are so damn hard. Everyone had gone through the move on process.
Before the move on process, you have to deal the mourn process.
The Mourn process can be vary to everyone like :
- lock yourself in rooms for unlimited time (days, weeks, month or years)
- don't feel like to socialized with people because you don't want them to felt sorry for you
- you've lost appetite for food or the other way around (you love food more than before)
- you start questioning why the hell family and friends love you
- you felt like damages good
- start to hate yourself
- start being bitter about love itself
- sometimes being extra too careful when someone show interest on you
- start missing the person so damn much and end up hate them as much as before
- you make a vow about being single for life.
- you are wondering why you are with them in the first place
- you start to avoid social event just to avoid seeing people because you don't want them to ask unnecessary question
- being the most crowded place yet you still felt lonely
Well Move on process usually start if you already pass the mourn process. Move on Process are start like :
- trying to accept that the relationship wasn't mean to be in the first place
- trying so hard not to blame yourself because the relationship doesn't work
- start trying to believe not everyone as bad as the ex
- you start to love yourself and made some improvement (maybe doing some makeover thing, work out more than usual)
- start back in the dating game
- start to socialized more with friends and family and the familiar word most likely come out from them : we're glad the old you that we love back, you look more gorgeous than before, etc
- Suddenly being with friend are the most joyful thing and the idea going home early was boring
- etc
Okay lets said that you've finally move on and have someone news who adore you much, make you their world and excited about the idea of spending their lifetime with you.
The world finally make sense anymore and nothing can't ruin your happiness.
But that's when you are wrong because suddenly the person from the past had the nerve to show up in front of you and ask to meet you.
The first thing come up in your mind are reject the offer because you've spend hundred of years to finally forget this person and meeting them aren't the option.
But then as the act of courtesy, you finally agree to meet up this person. You convinces yourself that its more like meeting the old friend thing and because you want to hear what this person want to talk about.
The day finally come and you've meet them. The first couple of minutes are pretty awkward and silence are the dominant one.
Then when they finally speak, the first thing came up are mostly the apologies part. The part like said :
- How such a fool they were for left out a great person like you
- A reason why they left you in the first place
- Ask forgiveness for the crime they do in the past
- The most shock thing that they saying that the feeling are still there and never left
- They sounds shock and disappointing when find out that you already had someone new
- They start make their way to reminisced the old time
The worst thing after meet the person from your past is when you are realized that you still have spark for them, the love you have for them was never gone.
Then after meeting them, you start questioning and wondering about current relationship you had right now.
Out of nowhere you suddenly decides the right thing to do was back with the person from the past.
Dude, that's the most evil thing and stupid thing you could do.
- Have you forget that they are the same person as they were in the past?
- Have you forget the mistake that person does to you?
- Have you forget that they are the same person that decides to walk out from your life?
Back with a person from the past is like reading the old book. You already know how the story end.
Besides have you forget that wonderful person who beside you when that person from the past crush you over.
- That wonderful person help and heal you from brokenhearted caused by that person from the past.
- That wonderful person are there while you are in the mourn process and move on process.
- That wonderful person love you head over heels and dying to make you their world.
- That wonderful person can't wait to spend their lifetime with you.
- That wonderful person want nothing but your happiness.
Now if you left that wonderful person for that person in the past, you are the bad guy now. You're the most stupid person in the whole word.
You are being stupid and idiot because you left the wonderful person for the person who left out from you in the first place.
If you are saying that its the love that you had for the person in the past.
Dude, if you said that you are definitely the most stupid person.
If you are doing that because of love, that's just bullshit.
You are the same person like that person from the past.
My conclusion is :
- Don't waste your time and energy by being back with the person from the past.
- Don't left that wonderful person for the person from the past
